I had several opportunities this past week to share my
beliefs with others, not that they were interested in conversion (in fact, they
were blatantly opposed to it), they were simply curious and interested.
Doing so reminded me of how much I believe in the basic
tenets of Mormonism, even when my perception of some of them may differ from
the majority of members. I also am convinced of the power for good that
Mormonism has been in my life. As I thought about this, I realized that what
binds us together is greater than what tears us apart.
Of course, this thought was put to the test at Church, when
the high councilman taught in Elder’s Quorum from a fundamentally different
perspective than I have, leading to some challenging phrases and ideas. As I
was sitting there thinking that my ideas are better/more accurate/deeper/etc. I
realized that I was unfairly judging his spirituality and that of countless
other Mormons in exactly the same way that I have been unfairly judged by some who think differently than me (read: almost everyone).
So I decided that I should develop a Pros and Cons list for
these two generalized groups of thinking, for a two fold purpose: first, to
humble me and allow me to see the dangers and problems within my own framework and
second, to build respect for the opposite view, so that I can better interact
and relate to those that don’t question everything like I do.
Those that Believe (The Skeptics)
Pros
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Cons
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Able to respond to questions and doubts of others
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Critical
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Relate more easily to LAs, PostMos and ProgMos
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Aloof and disengaged
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Nuanced faith
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Loner mentality- outside the community
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Able to blend historical facts with their faith
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Easily disaffected
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Always thirsting for more knowledge
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Difficult to be Orthodox/Orthoprax
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Think critically to help push the Church to better places
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Negative
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Tendency to tear down and not build up
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Like to point out the flaws in others arguments
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Those that Know (The TBMs)
Pros
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Cons
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Obedient
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Tendency to compartmentalize
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Unquestioning
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Frustrated by/with those that doubt
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Satisfied with the basics, standard narratives
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Blame doubting on sin or a desire to sin
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Not worried about past or future cultural/historical
changes- if it happens, it happens
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Can be destroyed by newfound knowledge that shatters their
worldview
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Steady and unwavering
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Contempt for learning from uncorrelated sources
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Commit immediately to new assignments/responsibilities
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May inadvertently offend those of other faith traditions
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Want everyone to feel their uncomplicated joy
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Difficult to relate to “Those that Believe”
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We need both sides to work together to create the Zion,
Christ-like Community that is necessary for salvation. It can be hard to
understand and relate to those that don’t share the same basic framework for
viewing the world, but hopefully this gives a bit of insight.
I still struggle tempering my critical nature and holding
myself back from showing off my “shiny pin of skepticism” (to borrow a phrase
from Bruce C. Hafen), as well as recognizing that it’s ok to not ask the
questions that I ask.
There are many ways to grow faith and increase spirituality,
just like people feel the spirit in different ways, they are challenged and
learn in different ways. For me that involves hours of pondering and thinking,
asking questions and searching for answers, usually only to find more
questions. Others may not learn or grow this way and I need to accept that, as
hard as it can be to wrap my mind around someone simply not caring one way or
the other about women’s ordination, claiming the end result makes no difference
to them.
Ultimately, both sides are grounded in spiritual gifts- one, the gift to know and the other, the gift to believe on the words of those that know. If God sees both as a gift, why can't we?